Ignored- Life is simple, its just not easy.

Wow, it's nice to know that I'm not the only one out there who grew up preferring my brother's toys. I hated dolls, dresses and playing dress up. Probably why I still can't figure out how to walk in heels on the rare occasion I am forced into a dress (like weddings!) and never got along with my paternal grandmother who was always making me wear dresses when I visited. I much preferred (and still do) playing sports (baseball and soccer) and video games.

My purse is a mini-backpack I've had since the early 90's - much better than an actual purse. My former co-workers used to tease me mercilessly about my hair, clothes and lack of fashion sense. It's taken years but I try to ignore them, even if most days I'm not too successful, but I try. Like Jayne, I'm glad to know that there are squirrels like me, and we're all okay.

jayperry wrote:

McKayalltheway - I would love a purse with skull and cross bones on it. I try to avoid using a hand bag, which is why I try and buy clothes with pockets. But there are times when I can't avoid using one.

I got it at a shoe store in the mall...ON SALE!!! WOOT!!! Wasn't even looking for a purse when I saw it, it was love at first sight!

I used to play with my brother's train set with him when he would let me but I did play with dolls too.
In fact I insisted on having an Action Man to go with my Sindy doll cos her boyfriend (Paul I think?) was a bit of a wuss! We had this really great fireplace that was built a bit like a rockery growing up the wall and I used to get him to climb up it! I also had a bunch of those little tiny plastic soldiers and they played on the fireplace too!

I have never been into sports but that goes back to my schooldays. I could never understand why, if I won the running races in PE class, I was never entered in them for sports day. I was always stuck with the egg & spoon race or the bean bag race! Kind of put me off sports and that was compounded when I reached senior school and people thought I should be good at netball just beacuse I was tall! Sorry but it doesn't work that way!

As for fashion sense.....I think those that rely on glossy magazines etc to tell them how they should look are somewhat lacking in imagination! You will look better and happier in something you feel comfortable and confident in, even if the latest celebrity would be caught drunk in it As long as what you are wearing fits you properly that is!

shansgrl wrote:

Nope, thread killer title goes to me....

Today is one of those days that I just completely hate myself and where I am in my life.

I have no close friends, mainly because I have a horrible habit of not keeping in touch.
I have a dead end job that I loathe with no chance of ever getting a better one because I had no money nor was I smart enough to go to college for a degree.
I have no money because of the job thing.
And there are times where I wonder if my marriage will survive.

Now, I feel terrible and guilty for thinking these things, let alone saying them out loud to anyone because there are so many people out there that are far worse situations than me.

Blech. Going to bed now.

This is the best place to say things out loud. It helps just to say something. What I tend to do is write an email to a friend, getting everything off my chest and then hitting the cancel button, so it doesn't get sent. For me, writing it all down puts in it perspective. So don't feel guilty for saying them out loud.

Scruffnstuff@ I know I feel a lot happier in comfortable clothes, hence the baggy t-shirts (okay I don't have a great figure - it never recovered after child birth - twice). My niece and even Bumble has told me that I look good in tighter t-shirts but I wouldn't feel comfortable, because I would worry about my 'love-handles'.

I read in magazines about people who have 100's of shoes and I think 'Why?'. I can think of a lot better things to spend the money on - DVD's for instance. Yes I know they need shoes for their 'Celebrity appearances', but does anyone really need 5 different shoes of the same shade of red. As you can tell shoes and handbags/purses aren't my thing.

I am so not girly! I dont think I ever got out of the tomboy stage!

I won't ever grow out of the tom-boy stage.

When I am old and need a walking stick, i'll still be pretending it is a sword or gun with the grand kids (if there are any that is)

I love wearing jeans & t-shirt always feel comfy in them

jayperry wrote:

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Scruffnstuff@ I know I feel a lot happier in comfortable clothes, hence the baggy t-shirts (okay I don't have a great figure - it never recovered after child birth - twice). My niece and even Bumble has told me that I look good in tighter t-shirts but I wouldn't feel comfortable, because I would worry about my 'love-handles'.

I read in magazines about people who have 100's of shoes and I think 'Why?'. I can think of a lot better things to spend the money on - DVD's for instance. Yes I know they need shoes for their 'Celebrity appearances', but does anyone really need 5 different shoes of the same shade of red. As you can tell shoes and handbags/purses aren't my thing.

I certainly wasn't suggesting fit = tight re: clothes. Some of the best styles are supposed to be loose fitting!

Personally I don't see how it can be comfortable to to have to keep pulling down a t-shirt that is creeping up cos it is tight fitting, or wear jeans that show off your underwear cos they barely cover your hips, but maybe that is an age thing! And yes I have a good supply of baggy t-shirts cos I like them too!

I guess what I meant by fitting you, was by being the right size and style for whatever size and shape you actually are and not what the mags have told you you should be wearing to be trendy.

Am I digging a deeper hole for myself here?!

As for shoes.......well I take a UK size 9 so I have never had the chance to buy 5 differnt styles of shoe in the same colour, even if I had the money or inclination! I have enough trouble finding one comfortable pair!

Ok, as for thread killers. When I was over at dgeek (as well as a few others)...many threads were killed with my last post. Like what the...?

I am a Tom Boy/ Tom Girl (woman). I am soon to be 34 and I HATE wearing Dresses. I do not even own one. Nor do I (collect) shoes. I have one purse thats a camo-bag and 2 pairs of shoes. One for work and once for going out. Oh, I neglected to mention..they are running shoes. The other pair of foot wear I have is a pair of winter boots. I do not own high heels. Can not walk on them and are very uncomfortable.

Also that show 'What Not To Wear" Drives me f*n nuts. (Please excuse the language.) The clothes they pick out is just horrid. Like Tweed! AAAAh. *runs screaming*

I am a Goth and I told my best-friend that who is not a Goth...If you ever try and put me on that show I am going to embarrass her so bad on TV that she will wish she never called them. Personally they can shove their... what is it 5 grand U.S? up their fashionably incorrect butts as for as I am concerned.

People have often said to me...'You would turn down 5,000 bucks and to be on a show?' I say yes and they do not believe me. I am waiing for someone to test me. I am so hoping for it. To prove them all wrong. Then I would have the last laugh.

~I would rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not !!!~ And I fully believe that. Why be something your not just to please the masses? To be 'Socially accepted'. Baa, what a load of Horse Pucky.

As for the school thing...From Kindergarten through high school..I maybe had one friend and that fluctuated because of the "Social Scene". I was the most hated person all through school because I was different. I am not exaggerating here either. I wish I was...but I am not. I was beat up so many times as a kid. No wonder I am tough as nails now. It was never just one person either. I could have handled that. Nope it was always groups. After one guy tried in Public School to beat me up (kindergarten) and I beat him up so bad it was always groups of people after that. I have no idea if it was Karma or not but now...I am alone...but certainly not lonely. I love my life now. I get to do what I want when I want. I am a sever independent woman and I love it.

Everyone keeps asking me...."Don't you miss having a man around?"

Why? So they can boss me around and tell me what not to wear, or no I can not go out at 3 am for a walk with my dog, etc. I am sick and tired of looking after someone else...its time for me and I am finally at a place in my life where I am finally happy.

So, just because you have it rough now...does not mean it will always be that way. I am living proof.

Be strong! Be independent! Be who you are meant to be, inside, not what everyone else wants you to be. Fight for what YOU believe in. Individuals make the best people in the world. Why be an atomiton...when you can be free and one with yourself instead of a shadow of who you want to be.

Wow, I just read over what I wrote...I kinda went on a path all me own. Hmm, par for the course. Took me a long time to learn all of that...hope in the end... it will not take others quite as long.

Being a woman means Power and Power equals a strength that no man can touch!!!

No offense to all the 'good' men out there.

Angelica wrote:

Ok, as for thread killers. When I was over at dgeek (as well as a few others)...many threads were killed with my last post. Like what the...?

I am a Tom Boy/ Tom Girl (woman). I am soon to be 34 and I HATE wearing Dresses. I do not even own one. Nor do I (collect) shoes. I have one purse thats a camo-bag and 2 pairs of shoes. One for work and once for going out. Oh, I neglected to mention..they are running shoes. The other pair of foot wear I have is a pair of winter boots. I do not own high heels. Can not walk on them and are very uncomfortable.

Also that show 'What Not To Wear" Drives me f*n nuts. (Please excuse the language.) The clothes they pick out is just horrid. Like Tweed! AAAAh. *runs screaming*

I am a Goth and I told my best-friend that who is not a Goth...If you ever try and put me on that show I am going to embarrass her so bad on TV that she will wish she never called them. Personally they can shove their... what is it 5 grand U.S? up their fashionably incorrect butts as for as I am concerned.

People have often said to me...'You would turn down 5,000 bucks and to be on a show?' I say yes and they do not believe me. I am waiing for someone to test me. I am so hoping for it. To prove them all wrong. Then I would have the last laugh.

~I would rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not !!!~ And I fully believe that. Why be something your not just to please the masses? To be 'Socially accepted'. Baa, what a load of Horse Pucky.

As for the school thing...From Kindergarten through high school..I maybe had one friend and that fluctuated because of the "Social Scene". I was the most hated person all through school because I was different. I am not exaggerating here either. I wish I was...but I am not. I was beat up so many times as a kid. No wonder I am tough as nails now. It was never just one person either. I could have handled that. Nope it was always groups. After one guy tried in Public School to beat me up (kindergarten) and I beat him up so bad it was always groups of people after that. I have no idea if it was Karma or not but now...I am alone...but certainly not lonely. I love my life now. I get to do what I want when I want. I am a sever independent woman and I love it.

Everyone keeps asking me...."Don't you miss having a man around?"

Why? So they can boss me around and tell me what not to wear, or no I can not go out at 3 am for a walk with my dog, etc. I am sick and tired of looking after someone else...its time for me and I am finally at a place in my life where I am finally happy.

So, just because you have it rough now...does not mean it will always be that way. I am living proof.

Be strong! Be independent! Be who you are meant to be, inside, not what everyone else wants you to be. Fight for what YOU believe in. Individuals make the best people in the world. Why be an atomiton...when you can be free and one with yourself instead of a shadow of who you want to be.

Wow, I just read over what I wrote...I kinda went on a path all me own. Hmm, par for the course. Took me a long time to learn all of that...hope in the end... it will not take others quite as long.

Being a woman means Power and Power equals a strength that no man can touch!!!

No offense to all the 'good' men out there.

You go girl!!!!!

McKayalltheway wrote:

You go girl!!!!!

Thank you. I meant every word too.

Don't get me wrong, I love my hubby, but the years I had living by myself in my little flat, were amongst the happiest and I wouldn't swap them for anything. The freedom of not living your life around someone else, priceless.

So I agree with McKayallthway -

You go girl!!!!

Thanks....

Appreciate it.

See I knew I was a thread killer.

Exhibit A

Look in the 'Let the Show begin' catagory - playing with the forum thread.

*Goes sulks in a corner* Nobody loves me *Sniff*

Only joking - about the sulking bit, not the thread killer bit lol. Good job I don't mind. Just have to wait and see if i've killed this one.

jayperry wrote:

Nobody to go home to, thought i'd never meet 'the right guy'. Not feeling like I belonged anywhere.

Thank you this is where I am right now. I take consolation from your life and know mine has GOT to get better.

Hi Angelicalangie. Good to see you made it to the new site.

Why is it you are the last person on a thread. You think the thread is dead and suddenly you find it has entries going on it again *scratches head*. Ah well, Murphy's law strikes again, or is it the law of coincidences?

*wanders in* Hey it still exists! Forgotten about this place.... update to my downer I got made redundant poopy! But in better news I am trying to stay positive and keep smiling for everyone else want to make my last days with my work mates good ones! Hope everyone else is doing well if not better, its hard to be ignored all the time!

@Jansky, sorry to hear about you being made redundant. Good luck in finding a much better job that you will love. Stay positive. (((squirrelly hugs)))